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Do selfies hurt the couple?

A study reveals that the jealousy in the couple increases in parallel to the increase of selfies published by one of its members.

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A recent study conducted by Daniel Halpern, specialist in social and digital media and professor at the Pontificia Universidad Católica de Chile, has analyzed the relationship between the quality of relationships and the tendency or not of its members to hang self-portraits in networks social. The conclusion: selfies do not help strengthen the sentimental bond.

According to this research, there are two reasons that explain this phenomenon. The first is jealousy. Both the fact of showing our intimacy, not only we photograph ourselves, we portray our daily life, as the comments and public interactions – sometimes untimely and poorly educated – that generates the alarm status of the person who has not uploaded the image. The results of Halpern’s work have shown that jealousy in the couple and the consequent conflicts, increase in parallel with the increase in selfis published by one of its members.

The second reason is based on the data of the work, but also on recent theories of social psychology that indicate that the individualistic and egocentric use of social networks leads to a considerable increase in narcissism. And what happens when someone makes an ideal image online is that it tends to underestimate their real world partner. The comparison between the gray reality of day to day and the fictional world of networks makes the first lose points.

In fact, a study by researchers at the Ohio State University (USA) and published by the magazine Personality and Individual Differences , revealed that the more tendency a person has to publish selfies in social networks, the greater predisposition presents to suffer disorders of personality as narcissism or psychopathy.

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The Social networks, although it represents a great advance in terms of communication, does not seem to be beneficial for human relations, especially the couple. More data: a survey conducted by a Swedish operator revealed how two out of three people spy messages and mailbox sentimental partners, which is a sign of distrust, insecurity and jealousy in the environment of the couple. A common result in surveys in any segment of the population is that men suffer more sexual jealousy, and women emotionally.

For some authors, however, jealousy is part of the biological mechanism of love. According to the psychologist Gregory L. White, of the University of California, in EE. UU, the need to be unique to at least one person, is controlled by hormonal processes. And when the person in question does not pay us exclusive attention, we become suspicious. In the book The Dangerous Passion: Why Jealousy Is as Necessary as Love and Sex (The dangerous passion: why jealousy is as necessary as passion and sex) is also analyzed the biochemical origin of the phenomenon.

If we consider that jealous people have a biochemical origin, social networks are a weapon that makes us vigilantes and spies of the people next to us. Behavior now has its consequences, however, and not only on a personal level. Since 2015, espionage towards the couple is considered a crime under the Criminal Code.


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